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Do you want a life partner, a sexual partner, a female friend or a one-night stand? No matter your goal, you need to attract a woman first. While some attributes such as good looks and fresh breath might seem logical in the search for female companionship, other attributes such as smell and facial symmetry seem much more nebulous. But, when a 2005 survey of more than 900 people who had been using online dating services revealed that three-quarters had not found what they were seeking, then it seems physical attraction has much to do with being physically present and accounted for.

Hence the following tips on how to attract a female in person. The tips have been categorized and are in no particular order. Therefore, one tip is no more or less important than another. However, they all are based upon scientific studies and marketing reports and surveys, so you might find a few ideas here that will help you on your quest.

Pheromones

We included pheromones, since the concept of a human pheromone, or sexual scent of attraction, has been debated and researched for years. But, pheromones, like other scents, hitch a ride through the air on other particles such as water droplets and generally hover just 10 inches off the ground. So chances that pheromones will add bonus points to your delivery are slim to none. However, the following tidbits might help a bit in your quest for attraction:

1. Underarm attraction: Dr. Winifred Cutler, a biologist and behavioral endocrinologist, discovered that once any overbearing underarm sweat was removed, what remained were the odorless materials containing pheromones.
2. Chemical communicate: On one side of the debate are the pheromone boosters, some of whom have founded companies that sell pheromone-based perfumes and pharmaceuticals. On the other side are skeptics who argue that the phrase “human pheromone” is a contradiction in terms. Between the two extremes lies a middle ground of researchers who are doubtful of the strongest claims but unwilling to ignore the possibility that humans, like many other animals, use chemicals to communicate.
3. Humans are difficult: Humans are “the hardest of all” mammals to work with, yet some studies suggest that humans may also respond to some chemical signals from other people.
4. Male pheromones help women: Use this line to get a date: According to the Athena Institute, male scents play a role in maintaining the health of women, particularly the health of the female reproductive system.
5. Try not to smell like a brother or father: Women preferred the scent of men whose immune systems were unlike their own. If a man’s immune system was similar, a woman tended to describe his T-shirt as smelling like her father or brother in a t-shirt smelling test. If a woman says you smell like her brother or father, your luck may have gone down the drain.

Physical Attributes

In the first study linked in this list, researchers discovered that good looks comprise just one point in a three-point woman-magnet triangle. The other two characteristics include warmth and competence. With that said, some men can’t develop warmth and competence without feeling good about their looks. The following tips may help in that regard:

6. First impressions are important: The stereotype that a person who is physically attractive has other positive qualities as well has been noted in many studies. Jackson, Hunter and Hodge (1995; as cited by Taylor, et. al) state that attractive people also are believed to possess qualities that seem irrelevant to physical beauty, such as mental health, dominance, and intelligence.
7. Great teeth: You might think muscles are the key to attracting a woman, but 99.7% of Americans believe a smile is an important social asset. If you have bad teeth (and bad breath), fix the issue if you want to attract women.
8. Attractiveness counts: Shelly Chaiken, a professor of psychology at New York University, proved through one study that physical attractiveness was key to success. While you may not be a “10,” you can spruce up your appearance to be the best – and, therefore – the most successful person possible. This counts in the dating arena.
9. Sport your colors: Blue, universally, is the color of business and of peace. Blue also suggests loyalty, an attribute that appeals to a person who seeks long-term relationships. But, if blue isn’t your color, you can learn more about which color to choose to increase your odds of being noticed.
10. Red is good, too: While women who wear red can guarantee a date, men who wear red also score high. According to Andrew Elliott, a professor of psychology at the University of Rochester, “Red is a dominant cue in the wild when it’s shown on a male. So human females who see red on a male will view him as more dominant, and that will lead her to be more attracted to him.”
11. Cleanliness is a universal attribute: “Good complexion, clear eyes, good teeth and hair, firm muscle tone, and a steady gait are found to be universally appealing to both genders.” (Nevid and Rathus, 369-70). These traits lead to perceptions of poise, sociability, popularity, and persuasiveness.
12. Consider plastic surgery: If you’re not a “10″ or even a “5,” you might consider plastic surgery. Kurtzberg (1968) conducted a study where he had plastic surgery performed on inmates and found that once released, they were less likely to return to jail than those without the surgery. This study might convince you to look less like a convict and more like dating material.
13. No scars: Even though women find men with scars attractive, they would not have a permanent relationship with them. However, if you’re after one-night stands, then forget the plastic surgery.
14. Be fit: David Frederick of UCLA found that women were more physically attracted to brawny men, especially for a fling. But when it comes to finding a long-term partner, they tend to pick a regular man over a mate with huge biceps.
15. Be genetically different: There’s not much you can do to change your genes, but if you stray into different cultures, you might have a better chance of finding a woman. This study shows that women are attracted to men from different gene pools.
16. Build a symmetrical face: Experiments have found that women are more attracted to men who have features that are symmetrical. So, if your face is lop-sided, consider some surgery.
17. Deepen that voice: Anthropologist Coren Apicella discovered that Hazda women preferred deeper voices in their men. Deep voices, she claims, signal some biologically relevant information to potential mates such as fertility or the ability to put food on the table. From this information, you might develop a deeper tone or become a Hazda.

Body Language

It has been proven that body language can reveal how you feel about a person. The more you know about how to hold your body, the more you can persuade a member of the opposite sex to join you. And, you can learn much about whether a woman is attracted to you or not by her actions as well.

18. Trust body language: First, you need to trust body language, or kinesics. Albert Mehrabian, who pioneered the understanding of communication in the 1960s, substantiated that only 7% of a message is verbally communicated, while 93% is transmitted nonverbally.
19. Add a swagger: But, only to the shoulders for men. In a study that involved 700 individuals who participated in a series of five studies, Texas A&M University professor Louis G. Tassinary and co-author Kerri Johnson of New York University discovered that men who walked with a swagger in their shoulders were accepted as more attractive by women.
20. Learn how to dance: A study from Rutgers University and the University of Washington shows that a man’s dips, spins, twirls and glides may be telegraphing to women their genetic superiority. One problem: the study used 183 Jamaican teenagers ages 14 to 19 as they danced to a popular reggae song.
21. Symmetry counts: Symmetry comes into play while dancing. If your body is off-balance, you won’t be a good dancer. And, according to this science article, women seem to think good dancers make good lovers.
22. The woman signals…: David Givens again brings some points forward, this time on how to send and read body language for the bedroom. These four particular “submissive displays” are what you might want to see from a woman: lifted shoulders, pigeon-toed stance, a look up from under the eyebrows and upward-facing palms. If you see one or more of these signs, grab her upturned hand and leave together!
23. Don’t mimic women: What works for women usually backfires for men. So, don’t dance too close, stare into a woman’s eyes (although direct eye contact is great) or dress seductively. Those clues should tell you that a woman wants you, so take note!
24. More signals to watch for: “Flirting expert” Dr. Monica Moore of Webster University provides more clues about when a woman is interested in you. They include the darting glance, short and sustained gazing, primping and preening, smiling, lip licking, pouting, giggling, laughing, and nodding.
25. Take a tip from bowerbirds: Gail Patricelli of the University of Maryland in College Park studied bowerbird mating behaviors in the Australian outback. She learned that when males conform to female behaviors, they become more successful breeders. “Natural selection favors males that are responsive to females and know how to communicate well,” said Patricelli. Males that are sensitive to females’ signals are more likely to mate with several females.
26. Learn what women look for: Studies by York psychologist Dr Arthur Arun found that it takes individuals between one and four minutes to decide whether or not they could fall in love with someone. And as witty as your one-liner was, 55 percent of that impression is not made by what we say, but by our body language. This layout, provided by Cosmopolitan and based on several different studies, is designed for women – but you can learn much about what women look for in a man’s body language through their slide show.
27. Learn the twelve steps to seduction: R.L. Birdwhistle, in his studies on human body language, suggested 24 steps from initial male/female contact to a fully intimate, sexual relationship and a sequence to those steps. Interestingly, it appeared to him that it was most often the girl who was responsible for the first move, just as Dr. Monica Moore discovered. A Dr. Morris reduced those 24 steps to twelve, and they are listed in this article.

Psychology & Behavior

The psychology of approaching and attracting women is nebulous. Who knows why and how some people are attracted to each other? But, some of the studies below, based upon psychological and behavioral research, might help you lower the odds against meeting and dating a fantastic woman.

28. Be creative: Professional artists and poets hook up with two or three times as many sex partners as other people, new research indicates. The more creative the study participants, the more partners they’d had. Grab a paint brush, now!
29. Develop an opening line: A UK study showed that many women made decisions about prospective partners after just 30 seconds. Although looks came into play, the opening line was what counted. Favorite opener? “What’s your favorite pizza topping?”
30. Take your time – or not: This tip depends upon what you want from the woman who may enter your life. If you want a short-term relationship, you can forget that list you made for the perfect partner – for men, all women look good when in a hurry to make a choice according to this study. But, if you want to follow that list for the perfect mate, then you need to take your time.
31. Watch the female: David Givens, an anthropologist, states that women often give the first signals for flirting. Your job is to be aware and alert to these signals, which Givens freely provides in this article.
32. You don’t need to bungee-jump: A new study found men are more likely to engage in risky behavior, like sky-diving or bungee jumping, when they’re sexually motivated. While some women enjoy watching this risk-taking behavior, there is no proof that they’re attracted to it. In fact, this type of risk-taking tends to turn women off when those women seek consistency and security.
33. Some risk-taking can’t be avoided: While abnormal risk-taking might be avoided, studies have shown that men cannot avoid displaying risky behaviors when they want to attract women. Risk-taking can be a tool that men use to show potential mates that they have desirable qualities such as confidence or ambition.
34. Make plenty of money: Daniel Kruger, an assistant research scientist in the School of Public Health, discovered that financial consumption was the only factor that predicted how many partners men wanted in the next five years, and also predicted the number of partners they had in the previous five years.
35. Hang around with ordinary guys: A study showed that when ‘hot’ women were paired with ‘ordinary’ guys, men had more confidence about approaching the women. So, if you’re just starting to body-build, then don’t hang out with muscle men.
36. Buy a Maserati: The roar of a luxury car engine actually does cause a primeval physiological response, according to one study. The roar of an Italian sports car aroused women much more than the quiet Volkswagen Polo. The car with the most response? The Maserati.
37. Develop your “parental investment”: In one study, women, “who were generally much more discriminating than men,” chose men whose overall desirability as a mate matched the women’s self-perceived physical attractiveness. In other words, men who fit the woman’s perception of a full-time mate seemed more attractive than any other man.
38. Look for similarities: A 2003 study, reported in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, showed that of 1,000 young New York volunteers, people’s stated preferences in a partner correlated with their opinion of themselves. Thus wealthy, educated, high-achieving people of both sexes wanted partners who were also rich and successful. The tall preferred the tall, the very short the short. People look for the safety of compatibility rather than the dangerous excitement of being at odds.
39. Think love, not sex: Romance seems to steep in parts of the brain that are rich in dopamine, a chemical known to affect emotions in both men and women. These brain regions are also linked by other studies to the motivation for rewards. “Romantic love is one of the most powerful of all human experiences,” said study member Helen Fisher, an anthropologist at Rutgers University. “It is definitely more powerful than the sex drive.”
40. Stress safety : Unless the woman sends outrageous signals to you, like licking whipped cream seductively from her ice cream sundae while staring you in the eye, then take the subtle route. Female animals, birds and humans all like to feel safe. So, take off that jacket, wrap it around her to protect her and tell her how committed you are to keeping her safe. While this has nothing to do with mating among fiddler crabs, it might have everything to do with your success.
41. Raise your expectations: Although a woman likes to feel safe, she doesn’t like to be patronized. According to one survey of college women at Waseda University in Japan, about 60 percent of the female students surveyed want their potential spouses to have a higher income that their own salaries. Additionally, about half of those women want their future mates to have graduated from prestigious universities such as, at least, Waseda, Keio and Sophia.

Market Yourself

Many men have learned that women are far different from men and need to be approached differently. Fortunately for men today (men such as David Cameron, for example), many marketing firms focus on how to approach women. Why not use some of their techniques to build rapport with the opposite sex? Not surprisingly, many tips come from women. Here are a few examples:

42. It’s all about control: Sure, it’s ok to connect with a woman. But, if you want her totally, then give her control. Once she has control of the situation, then allow her to connect on her own terms.
43. Don’t stereotype: Overall, women are much better defined by their occupations, interests and identities than by gender. Avoid the “all women do this” syndrome and focus on that woman’s unique characteristics. Make sure you let her know that you’ve noticed them, too, especially if those characteristics turn you on.
44. Be a good salesman: “Be a good listener and pour on the empathy,” is part of the advice offered to the Realtor who sells homes to single women. Another clue worth heeding is, “The key is listening, understanding and then influencing according to the interest of the individual.”
45. Watch the details: Women, literally, see things differently than men. Women have more rods in their eyes than men, and rods are sensitive to light and detect small movements in the visual field. This means women generally have greater peripheral vision than men, or, in other words, women see more than men at one glance. This is one more reason why first impressions are important and why they happen for women so quickly.
46. Find out what turns women off: While this list goes into detail about what sort of marketing turns women off, you can use this list to your advantage. One tip from this page: Keeping her waiting or otherwise wasting her precious time.
47. Sell yourself: While this blog entry talks about selling technology to women, the same tips can be used to sell yourself to a woman: What can you do for her, tell stories (not lies!), and be authentic.
48. Forget seduction: If you’ve come this far in the list, you know that sexy come-ons usually don’t work with most women. Instead, like some undergarment companies have learned, you might sell your benefits rather than your sexiness to her. Nothing is sexier to some women than the benefit of a house in the Hamptons, for instance.
49. Learn how women think: Women tend to think in terms of a “web” of interrelated factors, as opposed to a man’s tendency to think in a linear fashion. If you were a car, for instance, car, a woman might think of what she needs you to do first, and then consider your make and model second. Function comes first (and not necessarily sexual) and then looks.
50. Think “Interconnectivity”: Andrea Learned, a well-known and esteemed marketer, recently wrote that the average consumer is changing and that this new consumer will rise out of the ashes of recession. “This more interconnected, community-aware and balanced brain processing of decisions means that your consumer is thinking more ‘like a woman’ every day.” If you’re part of that new way of thinking and connecting, then you don’t need many more tips. Except, perhaps, to remember to keep your fly zipped in public.

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